Friday, September 04, 2009
The person whose sexual strategies involve coarse jokes and explicit gestures, who stampedes toward his goal without taking "no" or "not yet" for an answer, is looking for sex of the wrong kind - sex in which the other is a means to excitement, rather than an object of concern. Entered into this frame of mind, sex is not an accepting but a discarding of the other, a way of maintaining an iron solitude in the midst of union. That is why it is so deeply offensive and why women, especially, feel violated when men treat them this way.
It's a beautiful disguise.